Showing posts with label twitter. Show all posts
Showing posts with label twitter. Show all posts

Thursday, August 26, 2010

Picture Book Writing + Twitter = #pblitchat


today's new picture books
Image by your neighborhood librarian via Flickr


If you're interested in authoring Children's Picture Books, and chatting with other like-minded folks, I highly recommend that you take advantage of #pblitchat, a weekly chat co-convened by friendly Aussies Karen Collum (@KarenCollum), and Kat Apel (@KatApel).

For details, including chat transcripts, check out:

Picture Books Only: Home of #pblitchat

New home for #pblitchat!

Karen Collum is happy to add you to the #pblitchat news & info mailing list. Just drop her a line: pblitchat@bigpond.com

You may also search twitter for #pblitchat, and add it to your saved searches for easy reference.

Thursday, May 20, 2010

Alice Pope: Tweet Roundup

Be sure to check out Alice Pope's Wednesday Tweet Roundup, a bulging bag of goodies for aspiring children's writers. It contains informational links galore, from a virtual treasure trove of quality tweeters. (Be sure to follow them!)

Sample tweet: @srrcolvin: RT @4kidlit Adventures in Children's Publishing: Quirks Are Character Life S.. http://bit.ly/b7DdAw

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You may know Ms. Pope as the former editor of the Children's Writer's & Illustrator's Market. She now authors the fabulous Children's Market Blog at SCBWI.



Friday, January 1, 2010

We may or may not be embracing our personal energy


Dill Weed
Image by Marcus76 via Flickr


Re-post: This was posted nearly a year ago to the day, December 30, 2008, at my former blog, How to be a Woman. (I updated the section of the post referring to said blog with the correct tense.) Happy New Year to all you fabulous people! This year is going to be so puddingliciously awesome that I can quite literally taste it. :D

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I'm new to social networking and social media. New to blogging. All of it. From an outsider's perspective, it's one giant fascinating ball of wax. Like sitting at the foot of a table watching a cross-section of society play Monopoly and fight over who gets the thimble while others scramble for a seat. Here's what I've observed over the last couple of days, and my pointless ruminations and blather about it all, contained in the form of a series of run-on sentences and inappropriately placed commas, sure to set Holly Jahangiri's frontal vein a'bulging.

Sometimes people create lists that contain mentions of other people. Those mentioned on the lists are happy, but those not mentioned are hurt and often feel betrayed.

Why then do people devise such lists? And why do people continue to care about them? Why are people who create such lists often catapulted to the top of the social networking strata if they aren't already there?

For the same reason Rob and Amber were so successful on Survivor. They were leaders, and others thought them untouchable. Also, because in the world of social networking people rely on other people to spread the word about them, and to make introductions. To get a nod of approval from a big cheese in the world of social networking can send flocks of followers one's way. Why is this a good thing? Exposure. To promote your brand. And for some, to quote THE Neil...

"...I got an emptiness deep inside
And I've tried
But it won't let me go
And I'm not a man who likes to swear
But I never cared
For the sound of being alone'"

There is a lot of resistance out there to positivity. There are a lot of life coaches on Twitter and Facebook, a lot of people telling other people how to use Twitter and Facebook, how to present themselves, how to express themselves. How to "be".

There are people making a living this way. I don't mind them myself. For the most part, they are a harmless bunch. And is it really such a bad thing to be around people who encourage us to stop wallowing in our own muck and self-pity, embrace our energy and our personal power and just GO FOR IT?

I suppose it is if you're not the go for it type. Some would do well to drop their wall of jokes and listen to what they have to say. Being happy is okay. Happiness and positivity are not tantamount to idiocracy. But all people weren't meant to be energetic and perky. Just because one is low key and expresses him or herself with a quiet and sardonic wit or a dark seriousness does not mean they are not embracing their energy. Some dance to the beat of a different drummer. Any attempt to alter them is, in my opinion, a crime against nature.

There are posers among us. Or poseurs. Or possers. Depends on the observer calling out the poser. What is a poser you ask? I have no idea. If you know, please tell me. I am so out of the loop. But posers or poseurs or poosers are apparently supposed to be blackballed on one's Twitter, or Friend Feed, and we're not supposed to Digg posers. Don't even think about Friending them on Facebook. Why? Apparently posing is anti-social. Unless it's in a cute hat and on your avatar.

We may or we may not be dillweeds. If we tell other people what to do, it's likely that we are dillweeds. I'm starting to suspect that being a dillweed is not a good thing. I'm even starting to suspect that I might be a dillweed.  :o

Some people didn't get the tongue-in-cheekocity of the title of my old blog "How to be a Woman", and thought that I was positioning myself as an authority. A natural mistake to the casual observer. But to anyone who actually read my blog, this was laughable and couldn't have been farther from the truth. The whole point of this blog was that I haven't a clue how to be a real woman. I am an apprentice. I'm on the path, not the path. I admitted that I am a big jerk who is flailing around, trying to learn how to be happy, how to be strong and steady and do right by the family I love. I'm going to get there someday.

However,  I am perfectly alright with being a dillweed. Takes the pressure off. And I like pickles better than cukes anyway.

Twitter is addictive. There are so many fascinating people out there. I really, truly mean that. They're out there, and they are actually willing to communicate with you. There are talented artists, writers, singers, comedians, business moguls, you name it, there on your Twitter screen. Right there at your fingertips.

Where else are you going to be presented with the opportunity to communicate with such incredible people first-hand? At this point, I would argue nowhere. Not like this. Not this instantly gratifying. And if you're nice to them, they have to be nice to you. Heh. Because if the rest of their followers should witness them being a jerk to you without provocation, then they're likely to hear about it. You've got them over a barrel. Ain't it cool?

Note to self: Do not become obsessed with losing followers. Those who matter don't mind, and those who mind don't matter. (Thanks, Annette.) Just be yourself, have a blast, and let the chips fall where they may. Note to self: Spend less time on Twitter and more time with your kids and your projects. Note to self: A little Tweeting is perfectly okay.

Signing off,
Dillweed in California

Thursday, December 10, 2009

Interview: DiTesco of iBlogZone

ditesco of iblogzoneI done stalked and trapped me my second interview victim! Drum roll, please... it's DiTesco of iBlogZone! DiTesco, thanks for the fabulous interview. It was a ton of fun for me. You are a joy and a pleasure. I should probably release you from under my golf cart now.... nah.
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Heather: I have to know. From where did the name DiTesco come? How should your readers address you?

DiTesco: This is amazing, haha. After a little over one year of blogging, you are the very first person that actually asked me that. I would never have imagined. Anyway, DiTesco comes from the Latin word that means "To Be Rich", lol. I came up with this alias at the time I started to blog. Why? Not really sure, but there is this thing about me and Latin words. Take my consulting company, it is called Arcanus, which is also Latin and means "Secret Society". By secret, I don't mean dubious or anything like that, just the fact that I am a consultant and I keep all my clients information confidential, hence secret. How should people address me? Francisco (my real name), Frankie (my nick) and of course DiTesco. I'm good with anyone of them.

I like Latin words as well. They exude poetry, mystery and power. You are a consultant? What are your services and to whom do you offer them?

Yes, I am a Management Consultant. I offer my services to small and medium size companies that require assistance in several areas. These include but not limited to, Company Incorporation, Mergers & Acquisitions, Financing, Business Plan Preparations, Special Audits (Internal Control & Fraud), CRM, etc. My business is mainly concentrated to local companies. I do have some clients from Russia, Bulgaria and Cyprus. Most of them are off-shore companies that are particularly interested in investing in Real Estate and Fund Management.

Wow, I had no idea! When you say local companies do you mean Portuguese companies? What is the best way for interested parties to contact you regarding your Management Consulting services?

Yes. Local means Portuguese companies. And as for contacting me for consulting services, anyone could send me a direct email at fperez at grupo-arcanus dot com. Ironically, I never did put the time to set up a website for my company. I fortunately never needed one. All my marketing activities are by sending direct emails to potential clients and word of mouth. You see, before I decided to go "solum" (solo), I had another company called "Inter Alia" (among other things). This company provided accounting services and I used the existing client base to leverage this for Arcanus. I later closed this company. Another thing worth mentioning is that I occupied several executive positions before. I was Chief Operating Officer of AIG (American International Group - Life Division), General Manger Of Sensormatic, Chief Financial Officer of Banesto Insurance, etc. I met many great people and now I work with them:)

Well I'll be a monkey's aunt! Who knew? I just assumed you came into being via Twitter and manifested your DiTesconess and SEO brilliance through iBlogZone.com. It seems as though you've got a wealth of business experience under your belt. (How do you say knock me over with a feather in Portuguese?) Did you first experience the internet as a business application, or as a personal one?

Thanks for the compliment:) As far as the internet is concerned, I really do not remember, but I am betting that it was for Business purposes. My blog, on the other hand, did start as a personal/business adventure. I did not want it to be purely personal so I tried to find a way to balance it with business. Bingo, online business by sharing my personal experience and opinion. This is obviously easier said than done. At inception everything was really a mess, and after way too much of trial and errors, I finally settled with iBlogZone.

There were two things that I had in mind when I took my first steps to blogging. First, was more of a personal challenge. I wanted to know and prove to myself that it was possible to make a difference and succeed online. Second, and this really did not take long to decide, was how to achieve the first goal:) I did what I constantly say in most of the ideas I share with my readers, that is, I acted on every single thing I learned. As with my offline experience, I had mentors which were kind enough to take the time to share their wisdom, and online was no exception. Countless people are out there that are willing to help. You just have to find them:)

I agree, DiTesco. We hear so much about the creeps and cretins in cyberspace, but not so much about all of the fabulous, helpful people just waiting for us to engage them. You strike me as a driven person. Like once you get your eye on the prize you are off like a racehorse and don't stop until you cross the finish line. What would you say drives you to succeed?

What drives me most is that wonderful feeling that in a way I am able to help people that I do not even know or met it my life. Receiving their feedback through their thoughtful comments gives me the sensation that I am not alone and that there is someone actually reading what I have to say. That feeling of having accomplished something no matter how big or small it is, is just awesome, as I truly believe that "every bit counts". All in all, this translates into gaining a reputation and credibility. After that, everything else just comes in naturally. That's what success means to me:)

What do you think sets you apart in the world of reputation and credibility? Is there more to it than simple consistency?

Although I would like to think that I had built a pretty good reputation and credibility, things is, I really do not know. However, there are some signs that will lead someone to believe that his/her word matters. For example, I always made it a point to recommend only things that will actually provide value for my visitors. If you have noticed, on every blog post I have, you will rarely see an affiliate link. Why? Because I do not want people to think that all I'm doing is to lure them to buy something from me. Sure I've got ads, but that is a given:) I rather make money online from advertisers and not from my readers.

Let me give an example. There was this guy who bought a hosting package once and I told him that it was a pity that he did not buy it from my affiliate link. His answer was, where is the link, haha. How silly of me. Next day he sent me an email asking me if I have an affiliate link for a theme he wanted to buy. I told him Yes, and he bought it from me, without me asking. Now, this is something that you do not achieve out of sheer consistency.

Another example. I have this new found friend, where we started completely on the wrong foot (she bullied me at first sight, haha). We had a small confrontation and then she told me that getting to know someone is a learning curve. I respected that and we built our relationship based on interaction, exchanging ideas, sharing our thoughts, respecting each other and countless other things. Today, she has sealed that trust and credibility with me. Now, I am betting that as soon as she reads this, she will know who I am talking about, yay...


Well let's hope she reads this interview! I've got three regular readers, you, my husband Dennis and my Mom - so if you aren't talking about my Mom we're sunk. ;-) Have you ever been moved by a piece of art in such a way that it altered or enhanced your philosophy of life?

Nope. Can't say I have. Don't get me wrong though. I like art but, but merely for appreciation. It never really moved me that much. Now, I have these two cute little young devils, whom I can say are a work of art. Those guys did change my way of life. Oh well, they totally deserve it. I am a "drooling" Dad, what can I say, LOL.

Aww, you are a Daddy? How old are your kids? And are we talking human or are you a doggy Daddy?

Actually both, lol. I am both human and a doggy Daddy. My eldest is 13 (the intellectual) and youngest is 10 (the terrorist). As for the four legged companions, one German Shepherd and a Cocker Spaniel. They all get along just fine, hehe

Sounds like your home is filled with lots of noise and madness and fun! Do you and your boys listen to the same kind of music? How about the dogs? ;-)

I would like it to be that way, but unfortunately I only get to see me kids during the weekends. They live with their mom and it is about a 300 KM drive. In a way, it is good, because we spend quality time during 48 hours (almost non-stop), hehe. Fortunately we share pretty much the same taste as it comes, to eating at McDonalds, playing bowling, video games, golf and yeah, we all go nuts listening to the same kind of music when in my car. Basically R&B, Hip-Hop, POP, you know, what else could it be:)

The dogs do live with me. Angel, my German Shepherd sings (maybe howls), every time my mobile rings. She thinks that she is a serious contender to Beyonce or something because she will do this until the ringing stops. They do drive me crazy.

What else could it be? GOOD music, for starters. Alternative Rock, Blues, Classic Rock. *sigh* DiTesco, DiTesco, DiTesco... I will forgive you for this. I always thought it would be so hard to be separated from one's children so I am sorry for that, but it sounds like the three of you (or five of you?) make the most of your time together and that there is no shortage of love. Are you a good bowler or a gutter baller like myself? And what do you order at McDonalds? I get the southern chicken sandwich or small cheeseburgers with those fabulous dehydrated onions. Yum!

Thanks (for forgiving me), hehe. Those type of music, I like too, but my kids prefer the "cool" ones as they say. Well on weekends, that will be the three of us only and that is quality time. Believe me, I have friends that are so busy, they leave home before the kids do and come back when the kids are already sleeping. Then on weekends they do things that they did not do during the week, so it you account for hours, I get to spend more time with my kids than most do.

Am I a good bowler? How does an average of 98 sound to you. That of course includes me going all the way down the lane and kicking some pins with my foot:) Kids are OK, for their level.

We vary every time we go there, so we do not get tired of it. Big Macs, 1/4 pounder, nuggets (love those babies) and anything else hamburger. The choices in Portugal are different from that of the US.


I don't know if 98 is good or bad, to be honest! But I like the image of you kicking the pins with your foot. I'll bet your sons enjoy that spectacle as well. I'm not at all familiar with Portuguese food. What is a sample breakfast, lunch and dinner? DiTesco style, of course.

My kids say that it is cheating:) Anyway, moving on. I like to stay fit, so bacon and sausages for breakfast, a nice pasta for lunch and a fried chicken for dinner with a lot of french fries, haha - just kidding. Really, Balut for breakfast, I skip lunch and eat tripes for dinner, ewww, kidding again. Seriously? No breakfast, just yogurt and coffee, very light lunch, usually a sandwich and I'll abuse a little during dinner with a variety of things, nothing fancy or anything in particular.

You totally had me there with the balut thing! Seriously, you sound so... normal. I pictured you living on a diet of Red Bull and fancy Portuguese power bars. On that note, what is your favorite vice?

Yeah. Depending on what the definition of normal is, I'm as normal as they can be, LOL. Vice? Complicated, too many bad habits, some of which I prefer not to disclose:) You know, its a male thing, hehe. Anyway, one thing that I must do every single day is my 30 minutes workout, right after the "bacon and sausages":) If I don't do it, I will get grumpy the whole day. It has been one of those things "I can not live without" daily routine. On weekends, my vice are the kids. Nothing else.. BTW, Red Bull "on the rocks" is mind boggling:)

Oh, what a cop-out! I ask you about vices and you give me workouts and spending time with the kids? That's okay, now we are all picturing something ten times worse than your vice probably is. Heh. :) What is your Twitter philosophy and game plan?

OK. Let the "vices" be a product of imagination:)

Moving on. I really don't have a game plan, per say, but my philosophy on using Twitter (on my main account) is to build relationships, interact with people who have the same interest as me and also use it as a promotional tool. By promotional tool, I mean using Twitter as a means to share interesting articles, blog posts, News, and anything else that to help the online community. As an example, a mutual friend of ours, Holly, has began Irma's tour and that it something I am Retweeting and promoting as much as possible.

I also use Twitter to promote my online business and other bonafide services or products from third parties. Although I do this, I have set up different and special accounts just for this purpose.

That makes sense. I know you also participate in BlogEngage, and Mahalo, and other social networking sites. With so many available, what is your criteria for picking and choosing the ones you will devote your precious time to, and how do you manage that time?

One of the criteria I use for picking social sites are those that I believe will bring value to me and the community as a whole. My favorite is BlogCatalog. It is a great community of bloggers and I had the advantage of being able to form a group that has now over 2000 members. My approach to a social network is not being in all of them, but rather, one that you can stand out. This is only possible if at the beginning you put the necessary effort. I was very active on BlogCatalog and today I require very little time to manage my group and interact.

As far as the others are concerned, I take the advantage of the "technology" that links many of my activities. For example, if I have a new post, it will show on FriendFeed, FaceBook, Technorati, Twitter, BlogCatalog and at a click of a button (Onlywire), it gets distributed to the major Social Bookmarking sites. No time warranted here:) I interact with my friends on Twitter, and an awesome group of bloggers (P50) of which I am a proud member of in Google Groups.

I like what you said about "not being in all of them, but rather, one that you can stand out". That makes a lot of sense. Also, I've heard of those P50 bloggers - a rogue group of internet bandits in Halloween costumes, I think. Or something of that nature. What is on the horizon for you, DiTesco? What are your plans for the coming year?

Yeah, the P50. It is a bunch of bloggers with different backgrounds, experiences and topics, all united to help each other out. A bloggers alliance that actually works and manageable due to its size and a cool and awesome way to really build long lasting relationship. I love being a part of it.

Plans for 2010? So many... Online, I would pretty much continue with what I have been doing since inception and that is to further build relationships, provide as much useful information for my loyal readers to build their online businesses, solidify my blogging network and hopefully find a way to consolidate them all. All in all, I am managing about 15 active blogs and and 30 domains.

Offline. I would really like to find a buyer for my SPA business. I am tired of it and I think it is the right moment to pass it onwards. With this, I will have more time available and will most likely spend it with my kids. They are now in need of more fatherly guidance:)

That sounds like a great plan. Do you celebrate Christmas? If so, what is your favorite tradition?

Yes I celebrate Christmas? My favorite tradition is what we (my family) calls the "secret friend". Every year all members of my family gather in Rio de Janeiro - Brazil. About a week before my dad writes the name of each of us in several pieces of paper. Then each one of us will pick a paper and whoever name is written will be our secret friend. We can not say anyone about it and we have to buy a special gift for that secret friend. No one will ever know who is the secret friend and that is where the fun begins. Theoretically no one know but at the end of the day, every one will know. It will depends on each ones ability to figure it out, LOL.

That sounds like fun! Economical, as well. I'm sure you figure out who your gifter is by the end of the day. :) Wow, Brazil. I've never been. Is your family from Brazil, or do you just enjoy spending time there?

With the exception of my biological mother all family lives in Brazil. My dad, stepmother, two brothers and a bunch of hoodlum nephews, hehe. Plus I also enjoy spending time there, particularly this season when its summer there and winter here. I hate the cold weather.

You are a lucky man, DiTesco. I'll let you off the hook now, with one parting question. Outside of reading iBlogZone, what simple advice would you give to new and up-and-coming bloggers who wish to attract a readership and position themselves for good SEO?

You are letting me off the hook? What a pity, I was enjoying this short interview myself and have to admit that this is the first time I ever had this unique opportunity. Thanks.

For the advice. Determine upfront what your blog is going to be (yes, you need a plan), i.e, topic or niche, especially if you are thinking on building a small online business. If you are thinking of blogging just for fun, do not worry to much about SEO and those kind of things. Build your readership by interacting, socializing and respecting other people's views and opinions. If it is a small business you are looking for, aside from determining your niche upfront, provide good content and value for your potential audience. Learn the ropes on basic html, internet marketing, and SEO. And finally, TAKE ACTION. Act upon everything you learn and put it in motion. There is much information out there that teaches you how to do things. Everything else is up to you. Good luck.
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Contact Information for DiTesco
Blog: iBlogZone
Twitter: @ditesco



Thursday, June 11, 2009

Social Media ADD

If you're like me you suffer from Social Media Attention Deficit Disorder. It's gotten to the point where I'm almost mentally paralyzed. My IQ is dialing down as I type this. At any given moment on any given day I am thinking all of these thoughts at once and I'm not kidding:


  1. What should I blog about today? Should I even blog today? If I blog two days at once will I be setting a precident and thereby assuring that people will think less of me if I let two or even three or even four days pass between blog entries in the future?

  2. I need to check Facebook. I never get the chance to actually look at everybody's page and get the full scoop on the haps. I should go through my entire friends list and organize people into groups so I can catch up with different groups on different days. Friends, family, bloggers, Avon Reps. But what if people fit into more than one group? What do I do then? Forget it, it's too complicated.

  3. I need to updated my status on Twitter. "Good morning Tweeple! It's me Heather! How are you'z today?". Ugh. "Check out the Avon deliciousness at my funky and fabulous eStore! You KNOW you want to look GUUUD, girl!" He-hl no. "Wacka wacka wacka! Why look so down in the twace when you should be twiling? It's a tweautiful tway twotay!"

  4. I need to find one of those tools that lets me put my Tweeple into groups so I can Tweet more effectively.
    a) SEO Rock Gods!!!!! - All that awesomeness should be contained for safety reasons
    b) Life Coaches - Good resource for affirmations and eastern philosophy quotes
    c) Mommy Bloggers - I can commiserate and follow their @'s to find new mommy blogger followers
    d) "Real" Bloggers - People without kids are the only bloggers to be taken seriously in case you didn't know
    e) Teenagers - Anyone who makes me feel that old needs to be approached with care
    f) Funny people who may or may not be insane for real but I don't care - Nuff said
    g) Other Avon Reps - So I can steal all their good ideas
    h) MC Hammer - His fabulousness needs its own category
    i) Friends and Family - Wait, do I have any on Twitter? Oh crap, I do! Are they reading what I say? Oh no. I'm going to hear about it at Thanksgiving. "Shouldn't you be with your kids instead of talking with all those questionable characters in the internet? I think you even said 'poop' in public. I'm going to speak to your Mother about this."

  5. I need to get some eHow articles up so I can start bringing in some money. Why didn't I think of this back in the day when I actually knew how to do anything? Now all I know how to do is talk about how I don't know how to do anything. Hmm... would that work for an eHow article? How to write an eHow article when you don't know how to do anything?

  6. I need to get caught up on Google Reader. These days actually curling up with a good blog and immersing myself in it seems like a luxury. Oh God, am I doomed to become one of those drive-by phoning-it-in blog networkers? The kind that don't actually read your posts and say things like, "Right on!" and "I always enjoy your posts.", but don't really mean it in a thinly-veiled selfish attempt to get reciprocal comments on their own blog?

  7. I should be creating and promoting a Facebook page for my Avon eStore. But is that even allowed? Will I get it going only to look like a complete ass when Avon comes and cyber-spanks me and makes me take it down?

  8. Should I be working on the blog over at my Avon eStore? Will anyone actually check that? Isn't that sort of like typing up a story and tossing it into the fire? And why did I put a link to my store in this post? Will that look desperate or make me look like a savvy businesswoman? AM I a savvy businesswoman? Am I even a businesswoman or just a cosmetics-schlepping schmuck?
There's more, but my brain just froze over. You know that feeling. The numbness starts by your ears and slowly paints the top of your head until it reaches your eyebrows. I can only imagine what I look like to the unsuspecting observer.

Saturday, June 6, 2009

Mom Bloggers Caste System

I've been reading a lot of articles lately about Mom Bloggers gone bad. No names are ever mentioned, but the sentiment is always the same.

You think you're too good for us now.

Self-satisfaction is a nice place to visit, but I wouldn't want to live there. Never discussed, but always presumed is the hierarchy of Mom Bloggers that is becoming more entrenched as I finger this article. Never discussed until now that is! I present to you my...


Mom Bloggers Caste System

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  • Celebrity Mom Bloggers. They may have a book deal and make celebrity appearances on morning shows. One day one of them may be a guest host on "So you think you can dance". You can comment all you want on their blogs, but there ain't no chance in Hades that the favor will be returned. Don't take it personally, they're just too busy.
  • Mom Bloggers with a Google Page Rank of five or higher. I mean, how did she do that anyway? Her material is not even that good. Certainly not as compelling as my article on removing teeth marks from the cat's tail. She probably took a limo ride with Mr. Google and doodled his schnoodle. These bloggers may allow you to become their Facebook friend. They may even concede to comment on your blog if you guilt them into it by supporting them in a comment thread when the chips are down.
  • Mom Bloggers who have lots and lots of followers and/or feed subscribers. How do we know this? Because it's published right there on their blog. Take that, plebian! These bloggers are routinely interviewed and courted by other bloggers, their egos stroked in hopes that some of their magic will rub off on us.
  • Mom Bloggers who have a Google Page Rank of three or higher and are routinely able to procure obscene amounts of comments. Where do these people come from? People who comment on blogs? We could write a condensed version of Das Boot and our own Dads wouldn't even take the time to comment. We know people are reading our blogs. At least nineteen people. Because Clicky tells us that. But they don't comment. Why? Because they secretly hate us and want us to look like prom-dateless fools. It gives them a certain schadenfreudian pleasure to collectively doom our words to cyberspace limbo; forever moving outward, never hitting that mountain and echoing back to us deeper and louder and with more impact.
  • Mom Bloggers with a Google Page Rank of two or higher and a massive amount of followers on Twitter. Hey, at least they're popular somewhere. More popular than us, with more potential for being heard. Clearly they know something that we don't know. People like them. Or at least their Tweets. Maybe it's time to change out our Twavatars again.
  • Mom Bloggers. At least they've got a horse in the race.
  • Moms without a blog. Why even get up in the morning?
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Let's all respect one another and not take another blogger's lack of interest in us personally. Let's not chase busy people down and chide them publicly for not having time for us. If you like her, support her. If you don't like her, why not cease to focus on her? Certainly do not express nasty thoughts and allow her success to expand with the help of your passion and your albeit creative negativity.

Her success may not be my success, but it certainly isn't my failure. It isn't her or me. Let's do our own thangs and back in the glow of our positivity and our love of expression. Let's ruminate on our joy and the fact that we're d*mn lucky to be Moms in the first place and to have a platform for bonding and expressing our thoughts, good and bad. Our Moms were infinately more shuttered. Can you imagine how frightened and alone they felt at times? Yes, we are the fortunate ones.

Sisterhood is the new catty. Ain't it cool?

Saturday, May 30, 2009

Ode to Issac Chan

Issac Chan
You're the man
Jam me!
Spam me!
Don't delay
You've got bills to pay
Spam me as fast as you can!

Why be subtle
When thou canst befuddle
And befriend me on Twitter
Not once
Not twice
Not thrice
But octoplice!?

Others will call you a fool
Or even a tool
Cause you
Don't follow Twitter rule
You're bold
and truth be told
Issac Chan
I think you're a jewel!


Wednesday, January 7, 2009

Accept things the way they are now

Lately quite a few people have been making comments to me about my avatar. Speculating about whether or not I've Photoshopped my image—why I look so good in it, so young. (Mostly joking of course, tongue in cheek, or being complementary, God bless them.)

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This, of course, is laughable to me because I don't think I look that fabulous in it given that I'm sporting a fair amount of chin waggle among other things. But I did cut off half of my chubby arm, I'll give you that. Oops, in this photo I cut off my entire arm. And my entire son, too. But I only did it after reading an article about how you NEED a face shot avatar that "POPS!" like whiz, snap, crackle baby! I did not airbrush out my wrinkles. If I'd done that, I most likely would have taken the time to airbrush out my grey hair. Most likely. But maybe I would have just left it in there to throw you off the trail of my Photoshopping efforts, and to make you think I really am wrinkle-free and 18 years old.

The truth is this (and I know you're glued to your chair here because your life revolves around me.me.me. and my pointless personal revelations):

It's simply the only good photo of me taken in the last three years. The only photo of me that doesn't make me want to vomit. The only photo where I even remotely look the way I did three years ago before I got pregnant and got thyroid disease and gained 75 pounds, (30 or so which have been lost, but I've got a long way to go, sistah! I had just joined Weight Watchers before I got pregnant, so help me!). The only photo of me that I can look at without, quite literally, choking back a tear. All my wrinkles aren't standing out like white flags to the ravages of time and sun exposure, (and drinking and smoking and eating bad things and intense stress and lack of sleep), due to the lighting being really good in that one tiny window of time at the apple farm. And the flash hitting my face at what I presume is just the right angle. And because I am relaxed and happy and I have my boy in my arms and my husband is standing in front of me.

It's not you. It's me. My vanity. Or what's left of it.

I heard on Oprah today, (don't laugh—I'm taping it because it's Best Life Week and she's supposed to talk about her similar thyroid problems), that one of the keys to spiritual growth is to accept things as they really are. Not how they were. Not how we wish they were. As they are. I guess it's all part of living in the here and now. We need to be present in the moment and, I will add, 100% honest with ourselves if we are to achieve spiritual growth.

So I done went and changed my avatar here and on Twitter and Facebook to one more representative of the way I look every day. One without makeup. I took this on Christmas morning just after opening the locket given to me by The Bitter Half containing photos of my babies.



My face is poofy and swollen by the years and the extra pounds. My eyebrows should be treated with a blowtorch. My lips are peeling. My nose looks really weird - like it's growing a baby nose on each side. Thank God the flash blew out the wrinkles. But I am happy. And that, dear friends and readers, is a true respresentation of me.

Tuesday, December 30, 2008

We may or may not be embracing our personal energy

I'm new to social networking and social media. New to blogging. All of it. From an outsider's perspective, it's one giant fascinating ball of wax. Like sitting at the foot of a table watching a cross-section of society play Monopoly and fight over who gets the thimble while others scramble for a seat. Here's what I've observed over the last couple of days, and my pointless ruminations and blather about it all, contained in the form of a series of run-on sentences and inappropriately placed commas, sure to set Holly Jahangiri's frontal vein a'bulging.

  • Sometimes people create lists that contain mentions of other people. Those mentioned on the lists are happy, but those not mentioned are hurt and often feel betrayed. Why then do people devise such lists? And why do people continue to care about them? Why are people who create such lists often catapaulted to the top of social networking strata if they aren't already there? For the same reason Rob and Amber were so successful on Survivor. They were leaders, and others thought them untouchable. Also, because in the world of social networking people rely on other people to spread the word about them, and to make introductions. To get a nod of approval from a big cheese in the world of social networking can send flocks of followers one's way. Why is this a good thing? Exposure. To promote your brand. And for some, to quote the big N.D.:
    "But I got an emptiness deep inside
    And I've tried
    But it won't let me go
    And I'm not a man who likes to swear
    But I never cared
    For the sound of being alone'"

  • There is a lot of resistance out there to positivity. There are a lot of life coaches on Twitter and Facebook. A lot of people telling other people how to use Twitter and Facebook. How to present themselves. How to express themselves. How to "be". There are people making a living this way. I don't mind them myself. For the most part, they are a harmless bunch. And is it really such a bad thing to be around people who encourage us to stop wallowing in our own muck and self-pity, embrace our energy and our personal power and just GO FOR IT? I suppose it is if you're not the go for it type. Some would do well to drop their wall of jokes and listen to what they have to say. Being happy is okay. Happiness and positivity are not tantamount to idiocracy. But all people weren't meant to be energetic and perky. Just because one is low key and expresses him or herself with a quiet and sardonic wit or a dark seriousness does not mean they are not embracing their energy. Some dance to the beat of a different drummer. Any attempt to alter them is, in my opinion, a crime against nature.

  • There are posers among us. Or poseurs. Or possers. Depends on the observer calling out the poser. What is a poser you ask? I have no idea. If you know, please tell me. I am so out of the loop. But posers or poseurs or poosers are apparently supposed to be blackballed on one's Twitter, or Friend Feed, and we're not supposed to Digg posers. Don't even think about Friending them on Facebook. Why? Apparently posing is anti-social. Unless it's in a cute hat.

  • We may or we may not be dillweeds. If we tell other people what to do, it's likely that we are dillweeds. I'm starting to suspect that being a dillweed is not a good thing. I'm starting to suspect that I may even be a dillweed. Some people don't get the tongue-in-cheekness of my "How to be a Woman" blog title, and think that I am positioning myself as an authority. To anyone who actually reads my blog, this is laughable and couldn't be farther from the truth. The whole point of this blog is that I haven't a clue how to be a real woman. I am an apprentice. I'm on the path, not the path. I admit that I am a big jerk who is flailing around, trying to learn how to be happy, how to be strong and steady and do right by the family I love. I'm going to get there somday. And I'm perfectly alright with being a dillweed. I like pickles better than cukes anyway.

  • Twitter is addicting. There are so many fascinating people out there. I really, truly mean that. They're out there, and they are actually willing to communicate with you. There are talented artists, writers, singers, comedians, business moguls, you name it, right there on your Twitter screen. Right there at your fingertips. Where else are you going to be presented with the opportunity to communicate with such incredible people first-hand? At this point, I would argue nowhere. Not like this. Not this instantly gratifying. And if you're nice to them, they have to be nice to you. Heh. Because if the rest of their followers should witness them being a jerk to you without provocation, then they're likely to hear about it. You've got them over a barrel. Ain't it cool? Note to self: Do not become obsessed with losing followers. Those who matter don't mind, and those who mind don't matter. (Thanks, Annette.) Just be yourself, have a blast, and let the chips fall where they may. Note to self: Spend less time on Twitter and more time with your kids and your projects. Note to self: A little Tweeting is perfectly okay.


Signing off,
Dillweed in California

Saturday, November 1, 2008

Is too much social media a good thing?

My head is spinning!If you're reading this blog post, odds are you are already acquainted with social media. I got a crash course myself after I started blogging a few months ago. I now Tweet and even recently plunged down (dare I say its name lest I evoke it?) the Face Hole.

And if you're anything like me you probably find yourself wondering which social media are right for you. I've been trying a few things in order to determine which, if any, are a fit for me. After reading this article today, (which should be helpful to any of you who have recently been laid off), I'm wondering with great trepidation whether or not I should add a couple more platforms to my test route.

Here are the social media detailed in the article. Have you tried any and all of them yourself? If so, please do share your thoughts and opintions about them.

  • Facebook - Been there, done that. So far it's not nearly as scary as I expected it to be. But it's not as much fun as MySpace. (I used to have a MySpace account ages ago. Not as me, but as a character, you know, like The Easter Bunny. I wish there was a way to message all friends at once (even though I do not have an expansive friends list). And it's not as much fun as MySpace. I suppose it's more "adult", but it's a bit bland by comparison. Plus, it's confusing to a newbie like me. All the applications have my head spinning. And I still can't find out how to replace my wall with a "super wall". And I don't even know why I want one.

  • Twitter - I've been doing a spot o' Tweeting. So far it's pretty fun. I had no idea so many life coaches existed, and neither will you if you start Tweeting as well. They will find you. But hey, they are a positive people and throw out positive energy.

  • WordPress, Moveable Type, Blogger or Tumblr - You are looking at my WordPress blog.

  • LinkedIn - I've carried the impression that you need to have your suit and glasses on to join this one. It's probably untrue, but I'm sick of suits. I want to dye my hair purple and wear patched overalls while I work.

  • Flickr - I really like Flickr. You can share your photos in a social media setting, join groups, and allow complete strangers to view and comment on your stuff. This is a great site and you can learn a lot from others, including professional photographers.

  • Upcoming.org - Up what?

  • Meetup.com - In person????? *faint*

  • Seesmic - Who's Mic and why would I want to see him?

  • 12seconds.tv - I can do a lot of things in 12 seconds, but I've never heard of this place.